Wednesday 14 February 2018

Help yourself


I keep fighting the urge to spend all day in bed. This morning in particular, with the rain dismally falling outside. Every county around us seems to have had a good dose of snow, but we remain a dirty grey.

I do not want to hibernate for any particular psychological reasons, it's just the weather - the arse-end of Winter which has to be stoically endured for the few months leading up to true Spring. I have plenty to get up for. Today I will be continuing the bunny sculpture and later this afternoon or tomorrow, I am due to see the first edit of my little film. If you had told me what I would be doing today 30 years ago, I would have thought that all my dreams would come true. Maybe they have.

Similarly, if - also 30 years ago - I had been given a ten second glimpse of the interior of my current old Volvo from the driving position, I would have believed that I was going to die a rich man. All the gadgets, illuminated displays, sleek, charcoal grey dashboard with walnut trimmings would have played a cruel trick on me. Everyone expects this as standard now, and still there are people who say that our living standards have dropped to an unacceptable low. They must have forgotten the post-war years of austerity.

When I recall how I imagined my life to turn out from the perspective of a young man, I find that I was pretty accurate in my predictions. The main reason for this is because I have never been over-burdened with a keen sense of ambition. Neither have I been particularly competitive.

If there was ever a surplus at the end of school dinners (luncheon at Eton) and the boys were invited to form an orderly queue for limited seconds, I was so disgusted by the sight of people trampling over each other for a dollop of suet pudding and custard that I just stayed in my seat. I still would.

I feel the same way about money, or what you have to do to get a surplus of that as well. I think that all greed is rooted in insecurity. When you really don't know where your next meal is coming from, behaving gracefully becomes a challenge.

Most people begin with Plan A, and if that goes tits-up they revert to Plan B. I have plans which go beyond Plan Z, but this only denotes a lack of foresight, a lack of comittment, or a butterfly mind. I'm not lazy - I have spent about 40 years working extremely hard. So hard that my body is now showing signs of abuse. The thing is that it was physical work. I have just never played the game.

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  1. There is nothing more distasteful than the fight for more and more money.

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  2. I just bumbled along. No plan for me. I feel like a total failure sometimes.

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    1. Very few people who do not kill their spouses and children are failures. It is difficult to be a failure. I am not a failure, and neither are you.

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  3. No real plan here either....just get by and pay the bills

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    1. Keeping one's head above water by treading it. A man after my own heart.

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  4. Sounds the best way to play the game of life to me Tom.

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  5. Ditto, ditto, ditto and ditto. I do believe you have hit on the real meaning. Even of life.

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    1. I knew I should have written for Monty Python.

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  6. I have never been terribly driven. I do wish I had been a bit more focused as a younger person. Maybe I'd be better at things that challenge me now.

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    1. I gave up on mathematics when I was in junior school.

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  7. Same for me. I have always tried to do work I enjoy and for the most part I have.

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    1. I cannot imagine dreading going to work and yearning for retirement.

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  8. "The game" is a load of old doodah. I think most of us just do what we have to to get by.
    I thoroughly agree with you on all counts. I do think that the older a person gets the more you realize that less is more and as long as the income is sufficient to keep a reasonable standard of living, that's enough.

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    1. It is a shame that so many young people work hard at jobs they do not like and still struggle to maintain an ordinary lifestyle because of high rents and property prices now.

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  9. I would sit beside you at Eton, Tom - I hate greed as much as I hate avarice. Thinking of one's future as a girl (in my cse) has worked out mostly as i saw it - the huge surprise came when i looked and thought:and now? And i also realised that a few of these things i had wished were the dreams of others. At that point my life became highly full of surprises...

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    1. And I would sit beside you at Rodean, Britta. Some people have charmed lives!

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  10. I have just " bumbled along" too, as Rachel puts it. Left school, worked in a bank, had 20 yrs off to bring up family and went back to work in a bank part time. Boring but that's me! I never plan anything too far ahead. Friends of ours had their life planned out...they were going to retire to Norfolk, where they hardly knew anyone, leaving a close knit group of friends here, but then their boys had kids in this area and here they have have stayed !

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    1. Sounds as though Plans A and B were both made redundant.

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