Thursday 19 March 2015

Scare in the community


I've never liked this bloke, even from the moment I first met him, about 38 years ago.

I realised that he was a self-obsessed, aggressive and obsessive bore, even before his madness took hold of him properly, sending him in and out of institutions and on and off medication.

When he was finally told to go away because we had had enough, he took to calling us up late at night and breathing heavily without any dialogue in between breaths, and sending us letters accusing us of hanging up 'psychic nooses' in his room when he was out. Every now and then, he would daub vicious graffiti on our front door, or smash the doorbell so it had to be replaced.

So I called the police and gave them permission that I thought I would never condone - to tap our phone and record his late-night calls for use as evidence to obtain an exclusion order against him, but it seems that if you actually want the police to tap your phone, it isn't so easy. If you don't want them to listen-in, then there is no problem at all.

I knew where he lived and I knew his number, so I tried calling him up for a change, but he just said he had never heard of me and slammed down the phone.

Eventually, I wrote him a letter stating that I did not care how mad he was, but if he carried on hanging around and making unwanted calls, I would get him sent back to the institution that intermittently released him so he could continue his chosen career of trying to scare people with his loony obsessions.

For a while, that did the trick and he would - if I ever saw him in the street - look away or down. The calls stopped as well. No matter how mad someone is, they generally respond to a good threat, just so long as it is made with conviction.

Well now he's back again and as mad as ever, hanging around outside, looking up at the windows and generally making a visual nuisance of himself.

I'm going to have to go over the road to talk to him again, and it won't be a polite conversation. I do NOT feel sorry for him, you see. He is - like a lot of mad people - another failed artist.

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  1. Maybe if you told the police that you were 6 years old, and he'd made improper suggestions, then they might eventually do something about him. No, what am I thinking of; of course they wouldn't.

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    1. He would be dead by over 50 years before that happened.

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  2. My word, you are exactly a stone's throw from the river.
    These days you should be able to block calls. Of course there's a "male" thing going on here; territory and insults and aggravation and all that. I think I would simply ignore him. Keep us posted. End of my advice.

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    1. 'Simply ignore him' is simple advice, I am afraid, Joanne. I am not one to ignore stuff like this, and I sort of disrespect people who do, to everyone's long-term detriment as things fester without direct action.

      Yes, I am very close to the river, but the river contains no pebbles. I want to send you the human bone I found dredged up from the weir - would that do you?

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    3. An interesting point, festering.
      No bone; let's not confuse future archaeologists as to origins of species. But a pebble now--that could fall under your gaze any time.

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    4. Many pebbles fall under my gaze, but almost none of them come from the weir of the river Avon as seen in this photo. I will send one never the less though.

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  3. In the US, one would have a policeman escort you across the street to tell the man not to come on your property. Then, if he did afterward, he would be arrested and you would have a case against him. We had to do this to a neighbor of my daughter's. We finally got a restraining order against him and my daughter sold her house and moved to get away from him. He was a sociopath, not a schizophrenic, but a terrible neighbor just the same.

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    1. Yea though I walk though the shadow of the valley of death, I fear no evil - because I am capable of being a fuck-sight more evil than he is.

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    1. The thing about living in the country is that if you do have someone like that outside your window, it is twice as unnerving as it would be in town - at least.

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  5. Be careful. Here in the US he would likely have a gun.

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    1. Here in the UK, it is me with the guns, not madmen like him. This way, the guns stay in the cupboard and I would only have to strangle or beat him. Legally.

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  6. I'm feeling somewhat uneasy reading this

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    1. We have been - on and off - living with this for almost 40 years, and during that time he has been diminished by old age and prescription drugs.

      He is - like me - a large man, but has never - also like me - shown any signs of violence. His technique is to unnerve people, but I am better at unnerving people than him when I need to be. Yea though I walk through... etc.

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  7. I'm worried about the whole thing ……. he sounds completely unbalanced. XXXX

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    1. Unbalanced is an understatement, but he is (see the above) thoroughly depleted though age and prescription medication.

      He - when a young man - attempted to kill himself by sticking a sword up his arse, but failed.

      Don't worry, be happy.

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  8. The thing is, he is scared of me, and always has been. He is also scared of being branded as a stalker, so I am not too worried about that, though I occasionally get H.I. an escort home if I am not out with her.

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    1. I'm glad that you get H.I an escort when your not with her …… I'm not so worried now ! XXXX

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  9. How does H.I. feel about him? I would be scared to leave the house!

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