Tuesday 24 December 2013

Season's greetings


I was standing outside the pub last night having a fag, when I saw a junkie girl who - for various reasons - I have come to say hello to, and she shouted out the season's greetings to me.

I called her over, as I had planned to give her a bit of money the next time I saw her, so it wasn't a spur of the moment or whimsical act when I gave her a tenner at the same time as returning the greeting.

I was with H.I. the previous time we met on the street, and she asked me how I came to be on first-name terms with her. I explained that she was the ex-girlfriend of another junkie, and he was the one that I had tried to save from freezing to death on the pavement last year by going out, waking him up, wrapping a space-blanket around him  and buying him something to eat.

She had turned up as I returned with the burger and chips and, because she still actually liked the bloke at that point, was grateful on his behalf for my concern. Previously she had stopped a different comrade from asking me for money by saying, "Don't bother with him. I know him. He wouldn't give anything to anyone".

The one on the pavement had explained to me that he had nowhere safe to live, but was trying to raise the money to buy a caravan which was parked on a derelict piece of industrial wasteland. The caravan would cost £10. I gave him £5 toward it, hoping that might be a spur to raising the other five. There was freezing fog and minus 8 temperatures at the time.

Six months later, I ran into the girl again, and asked if he had bought the caravan. "He's still looking for the £10", she explained with a knowing look on her face.

When I went home from the pub last night, he was still sitting there in the same place as last year, with a bit of wet cardboard wrapped around his knees. He looked up to me, but ever since last year, he now only says "Hello mate", and never asks me for money.

When I got home, I told H.I. that I had given the girl a tenner and she asked why, adding that she would only spend it on drugs.

Well none of us give up anything for Christmas do we? We tend to make promises we cannot keep sometime around January the first, and ingest twice as much of everything in the run-up to the new year, don't we?

Years ago, I was approached by an old, Scottish derelict on the street, and he said, "I'm not going to insult your intelligence by asking for money for food or whatever. I am an alcoholic. I need money to buy myself some drink". That refreshing approach worked on me, but only once.

About a year ago, the girl had been pushing around a pram with a small child in it, but I have not seen the child for quite a while. I don't think that she is the type to pay a babysitter while she goes into town to sell the Big Issue or beg.

They say that the best presents come in small packages, but you never know, she may get something to eat. Either way, this isn't the time of year to be judgemental.

23 comments:

  1. Sometimes they buy drugs, sometimes the buy food. Either way it goes to something they need even if we don't like it.

    Happy Christmas Tom. I have enjoyed your blog this year!

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    1. Hopefully they do both, but if they only have the money for one, then I bet it's the food which gets left out.

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  2. At least you tried. Most of us would just turn a blind eye.
    Have a good Christmas Tom.

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    1. I almost didn't, but I really thought that the bloke stood a very good chance of dying right outside my house if I didn't, and my conscience got the better of me.

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  3. A nice Christmas post....
    You old soft puddin

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  4. You're a kind man Tom ….. there are so many less fortunate than ourselves.
    Wishing you, H.I and all of your family the merriest of Christmases.
    Thanks so much for your sense of humour and making me laugh throughout 2013. Much love. XXXX

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  5. You're better than most of us Tom. Have a very happy Christmas, whatever you're doing. x

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  6. 'In as much ...... ' a lovely blog post this one. Happy Christmas to you, H.I. and your family.

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  7. Well said, Tom. Nice post. Have a happy Christmas.

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  8. Good on ye Tom! (I'm at least as Irish at Heron.)
    Thank you for an interesting year of posts. A happy Christmas to you and all you love.

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    1. Use of 'Ye' is dialectal by people in Northern England, Cornwall and some parts of Ireland Madam.

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  9. 'Tis the season where one can hope. Happy Christmas.

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  10. I'm too drunk to individually comment right now, but all I can say is that my social heroes are Samuel Johnson, Soctrates and Scrooge, but not necessarily in that order. Happy Christmas, again.

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  11. In Brighton (years ago) some guy asked me for some money, so that he could catch a train to see his parents for Christmas. I gave him £5, and wished him well. The following day I met him again, and he asked for the same thing. When I said I'd already given him a fiver the previous day he bellowed in a huge voice FUCK OFF; I think the whole of Brighton must have heard him. I've lost my faith in sob stories.

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    1. He was probably still asking because £5 won't even get you to one stop down the line on a train. He might still be there now.

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  12. Dear Tom,
    I love that you gave her the money unconditionally. Few people can do that - I always see my sweet grandma (the lively one) before me, when I once wanted to explain to her what I would do with the money she gave me (she hadn't much, but she knew how to give) and she said: "You don't have to explain. It is a present." Can you believe me: I felt relaxation - all other people always expected at least a beatific smile (not that I don't smile when I'm happy) ...
    I wish you a Merry Christmas!

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    1. I think the giving away of anything should be unconditional. Everything else is either a barter or a loan.

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